Monday, December 27, 2010

The Natural Diaries... Entry # 3


Okay people. This whole natural business is really getting to be a pain in the butt!

Do you understand what it's like to wash my hair??? DO YOU??!!

The thing that makes it so difficult is the fact that it's half permed hair and half natural hair, which of course I anitcipated but Gracious Goodness!

It's soo hard to comb! And don't even think about blow drying it!

I'm even scared to go to the Dominicans now because I'm afraid they can't handle it! I have this strong feeling their gonna be like, "Um... Honey, This is gonna cost you extra." I already had one bad experience with a very rude Dominican hair stylist tell me, "Mami, you need a perm." I was like, "Actually, I'm trying to go natural so..." She said, "Mmm..." Needless to say I won't be going back to that particular salon but I'm worried even the nice Dominicans will look at me like I'm crazy.

The transition phase has forced me to broaden my horizons, and look into new options for my hair.

I used to be one of those girls who was against fake hair. I was like "no that's not me! I only wear my own hair because I'm real!"

Well, let me tell ya. That girl is GONE!

This new girl has discovered the world of half wigs, lace fronts, and oh yes WEAVES! This new hair realm is actually quite awesome! It's like, I don't even have to do anything with my hair for it to look done. It's amazing!

The first time I wore my half wig, I was very nervous about the reactions I was going to get. But when the overwhelming majority saw my hair I got a lot of compliments! I also made a PROFOUND DISCOVERY!

My discovery is this:

When Black people saw my hair they said, "Oh my gosh! I love your hair!"
When White people saw my hair they said, "Oh my gosh! That's not yours is it?"

It happened time and time again. One White lady even looked at me, pointed accusingly and said, "That's not your hair!" I was like, "Umm, Shut Up."

I truly appreciate how Black people have this unspoken bond, "I know it's not yours, but who cares! It's looks great on you!" Thank you Black people.

It's ok though. I understand that the Black women's hair perplexes White people to know end. They just want to learn. They don't understand that asking or shouting, "IS THAT YOUR HAIR???" Amongst a group of people is rude and rather embarrasing. It's alright. I forgive you. A little tip for my White readers though: The next time you feel the urge to ask someone, "Is this your hair?" DON'T! Just tell them it looks nice or don't say anything at all, and go on about your business.

The next hair option I'm going to try is a weave. I'm quite excited about it actually! And i'll be sure to upload photos. If it looks good that is.

Until next time!


  1. brenda i go 2 my cuzn shes realli gd wit natural hair shell have u lkn like u have a weave! & i think getn weaves & wigs is an insault to the natural movement the whole purpose is to show luv 4 who u r & the hair god gave u not 2 cover it up. 2 show whites and others that black hair iz beautiful!!! & let it b ur crown & glory. Yes it may b easier but does it show the same pride u tlkd about in entry 1? dnt let the stress of the transition cause u 2 loose ur purpose. Whn ur perms gone things wil b so much easier believe me ive bn where u r!!! Just kp wrkn @ it & if u nd ne hlp or advice hit me up. another thing alot of brovas dnt like gurls wit weave they prefer the real deal!

  2. What a nice series of blogs. I learned so much about Black hair care. You are right about white people being curious. Maybe you could write a blog detailing how much work is involved, the steps etc. It might even help some whites with mixed heritage children. You know how clueless people can be and it could really help someone. Think of the children!

    I absolutely had no idea there is a such a difference in hair management. If you remember I'm baid so my hair is very easy to care for. I just buzz it.

    I think it is amazing how much women in general put into their hair. And now I learn that black women are persuaded into an extra burden. I'm Amazed and a little confused... but that's normal for me.