Friday, November 5, 2010

The Natural Diaries... Entry #2

How I've Been Wearing My Hair

If I Go Natural, Will Guys Still Like Me?

Before deciding to go natural, I asked myself that question time and time again. I believe that was one of the reasons I was so afraid to do so in the first place.

What if guys don't find me attractive anymore?

Although I haven't let that question stop me, I think it's still something I'll struggle with and continue to ask myself until I've completed the whole the process.

I expressed those feelings to a co-worker who was already natural. She said, "Guys will still be attracted to you. You'll just attract a different kind of guy. A more mature guy."

Her response certainly makes me feel better and makes a lot of sense.
Typical guys, if they date black women at all, will probably want someone with long, straight, relaxed hair. Someone who doesn't look as "ethnic" as perhaps someone who doesn't get perms.

And at first I was like "Oh no! No one's gonna think I'm pretty anymore." But now I ask myself, "Did I want those shallow guys in the first place?"

No! The answer is no! Who wants someone who only wants you because you look like everybody else in the world? I don't! I want someone who wants me because I'm different. Because I'm not like any other girl he's ever met. I want someone who's as deep as I am. Who is also different from the "typical guy." I want a Man not a boy.

So I can't wait to be natural and attract some real guys who are worthy of me! The REAL me.


  1. Hey B I think you are beautiful no matter how you have your hair and I think you are very attractive woman, you show qualities of what a mature women should portray. Jehovah created you in his to conclude Beauty is already natural

  2. Natural is waay better n I think its safe for me to speak in behalf of the majority of is men and say that we prefer natural.

  3. @Jovon I thank you very much for that my brother!

    @anonymous Thank u also for that comment. Im glad men are growing up nowadays

  4. First and foremost you must be the one to think you are beautiful before anyone else thinks you are. We live in a fake world surrounded by fake things. Look at how black women are portrayed today...its all fake. Fake eyelashes, fake hair, fake breasts, fake bootypads. Being natural is hard because we are surrounded by fake. Once you love u, guys will love you too! Its not the hair that men are attractive to and if u find someone like that he's lame

  5. I absolutely agree on everything u just said Tara. In fact that's going to be the topic of my next blog.

  6. ur beautiful boo!!! NEVA LET NE1 TELL U DIFF!!! beauty iz sooooo much deeper thn outward apperance u nd a guy who luvs u 4 u, 4 who u r on the inside ur personality, & ur luv of jah shld b wat atracts him & whn u find dat Itz amaziNg! also ive notice more guyz luv gurls wit natural hair!!! i get alot more attenTion brovas ask 2 touch it LOL, i polled a few guyz & they preffer the poof over the perm. it makes u unique u stand out & having the courage 2 b diff makes u attractive inside & out, theyll luv it cuz ur real & they wnt have 2 worry bout aftr da wedn the water boobs cum off the weave cumz out u take the eyelashes off pull out the butt plugs & lk totally diff llz theyll have seen the real u frm the begining & luv u it!