So I'm 7 months into the transition phase of going natural.
It's going pretty well I must say. It's gotten much easier with me using my different options for styles and what not.
I've also stumbled across some good products like Kinky Curly Knot Today, that I can use once I'm fully natural as well and some excellent tips from youtuber kimmaytube. Check out her channel:
http://www.youtube.com/user/kimmaytube?blend=1&ob=4
In the process of going natural I have stumbled across one major revelation that has helped me feel the utmost confidence in my decision to go natural.
Let me explain...
Many people don't like for Black women to have natural hair.
When asked if her liked for a woman to have natural hair, Method Man replied, "No... I don't like peasy afros... I like for a woman to get her hair did. I don't like her to have dreads and I don't like her to have a afro." (Excuse his horrid grammar)
Many times when I tell people black or white that I'm going natural they look at me like, "Umm... Why?" or like, "Eww..."
I have a white friend who regularly gives her opinion on how she likes black people's hair straight and not "bushy."
When I get reactions like that it really used to hurt my feelings and scare me into thinking that I was all of a sudden going to be ugly when I didn't have permed hair anymore.
Then it dawned on me:
Wait a minute! I say, WAIT A MINUTE!
I'm going natural FOR MYSELF! Not for anyone else.
True beauty starts from within, right?
Will I think I'm beautiful once I go natural?
Yes...
THEN WHO CARES WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS!!!!
If you remember one thing and one thing only about this blog entry, let it be this:
THE ONLY PERSON WHO YOU CAN DEPEND ON TO THINK YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL IS YOU
Everybody else is a bonus! If you truly believe you're beautiful it won't matter what anybody else thinks, because you'll know the truth.
The way I see it, if I have to kill my hair and become something I'm not to be beautiful in your eyes, then I'd rather you just not look at me! K? Thanks! :)
As a woman, to go natural takes more than just not perming your hair anymore. To me it really takes courage, inner strength and confidence to say, "Hey, everyone may not approve, and maybe I won't be as pretty to some other people, but I'm doing what's best for me and that's what's important!"
I think throughout this process I've really matured and I can honestly say,
I LOVE ME! :)
well said, sis!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is all new to me and I am loving and learning right along with ya!
all the best!!
xoxoxo
KIM COLES